Forgot to turn the alarm off so woke up this morning too early. Followed by waiting for Comcast guy to get here and hook up the 'net. Didn't get out of the house til 4 something. J called - I had taken care of things just before he got around to calling.
He went out for pizza with R which turned into Costco evening. He said he'd be home in 2 hours which was 3 and a half. No big surprise. I called at 9:15, he calls at 9:30, I called again just before ten. We talk an hour. He says lets have a date at 5pm tomorrow. I don't want to be roped into a time on a day off. I am sick and tired of doing everything on his time schedule.
Went to Everett to try and find sheet for bed, etc. Ended up getting new sheet, martini shaker, glasses, baking sheets and a dishes :) Also got to the co-op where I was able to buy a week's worth of groceries ($125). Going to try the Gomashio noodles from vegan cookbook. Looks tasty. mmmm.....
Saturday, May 19, 2007
Saturday, May 12, 2007
Ever loved someone mentally ill/ADD?
My husband is mentally ill. I don't know what to do with him. He can't hold a job and has Adult Attention Deficit Disorder.
As a child he was hyperactive. You wouldn't know it now because he sits in front of a computer all day, often without ever goind outside or opening the blinds.
He used to have bouts of depression. He takes SAMe, dl-phenylalanine (amino acid) and Saint John's Wort. He had his driver's license taken when he was very depressed and looks a bit psycho on it. Unkempt.
I made the mistake of counting on him to pay some bills but the responsibility lands on my head time and again.
For my birthday he had a tizzy fit after I was upset with him for not planning anything. ,Someone called the cops and we each got big fines. Nice birthday present.
Christmas he spent with his parents and his daughter.
His mom has custody of her but is a chain smoking 370 pound beast of burden. She is a nightmare mother in law. If we ever built a unit for her it would definately be ground level. She orchestrated it so that his daughter would be with her for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
His sister doesn't want us to bond. She takes care of her and has lived with their parents for the last 10 years. She moved in with her boyfriend at 16 and moved out when he hit her. She can't have children so she is clinging onto my husband's daughter.
He doens't pay his taxes or bills but he wants to manage other people's money as a financial counselor. Give me a f---ing break. I paid $600 for him to go into business once before and never saw any of that money. I also lost my rope and a tarp to his 'business' partner.
People with ADD have a loss (void?) of the executive function of the brain. The part that reasons things out logically and makes plans. They tend to fly by the seat of their pants.
He is very sweet, is good looking and in spite of lack of exercise is still attractive. He is pleasant (easy to do when you are so distracted you can't remember what to worry about.)
But don't try to get him to do anything he doesn't want to. He has a PhD in foot dragging. You are the scheming demanding woman. Get used to it.
It is just too much to make the money, bring home the groceries, cook it up and have to hound him to clean the pan so you can cook in it. Then come the other wifely responsibilities and lack of sleep ensuing because he gets distracted there too and takes 5 times longer than normal.
It's good to get some of this out on 'paper' so I can see that I am not unreasonable in my expectations. It is difficult to be objective when you are in a relationship.
But it's pretty clear this isn't working out.
As a child he was hyperactive. You wouldn't know it now because he sits in front of a computer all day, often without ever goind outside or opening the blinds.
He used to have bouts of depression. He takes SAMe, dl-phenylalanine (amino acid) and Saint John's Wort. He had his driver's license taken when he was very depressed and looks a bit psycho on it. Unkempt.
I made the mistake of counting on him to pay some bills but the responsibility lands on my head time and again.
For my birthday he had a tizzy fit after I was upset with him for not planning anything. ,Someone called the cops and we each got big fines. Nice birthday present.
Christmas he spent with his parents and his daughter.
His mom has custody of her but is a chain smoking 370 pound beast of burden. She is a nightmare mother in law. If we ever built a unit for her it would definately be ground level. She orchestrated it so that his daughter would be with her for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
His sister doesn't want us to bond. She takes care of her and has lived with their parents for the last 10 years. She moved in with her boyfriend at 16 and moved out when he hit her. She can't have children so she is clinging onto my husband's daughter.
He doens't pay his taxes or bills but he wants to manage other people's money as a financial counselor. Give me a f---ing break. I paid $600 for him to go into business once before and never saw any of that money. I also lost my rope and a tarp to his 'business' partner.
People with ADD have a loss (void?) of the executive function of the brain. The part that reasons things out logically and makes plans. They tend to fly by the seat of their pants.
He is very sweet, is good looking and in spite of lack of exercise is still attractive. He is pleasant (easy to do when you are so distracted you can't remember what to worry about.)
But don't try to get him to do anything he doesn't want to. He has a PhD in foot dragging. You are the scheming demanding woman. Get used to it.
It is just too much to make the money, bring home the groceries, cook it up and have to hound him to clean the pan so you can cook in it. Then come the other wifely responsibilities and lack of sleep ensuing because he gets distracted there too and takes 5 times longer than normal.
It's good to get some of this out on 'paper' so I can see that I am not unreasonable in my expectations. It is difficult to be objective when you are in a relationship.
But it's pretty clear this isn't working out.
Ever loved someone mentally ill/ADD?
My husband is mentally ill. I don't know what to do with him. He can't hold a job and has Adult Attention Deficit Disorder.
As a child he was hyperactive. You wouldn't know it now because he sits in front of a computer all day, often without ever goind outside or opening the blinds.
He used to have bouts of depression. He takes SAMe, dl-phenylalanine (amino acid) and Saint John's Wort. He had his driver's license taken when he was very depressed and looks a bit psycho on it. Unkempt.
I made the mistake of counting on him to pay some bills but the responsibility lands on my head time and again.
For my birthday he had a tizzy fit after I was upset with him for not planning anything. ,Someone called the cops and we each got big fines. Nice birthday present.
Christmas he spent with his parents and his daughter.
His mom has custody of her but is a chain smoking 370 pound beast of burden. She is a nightmare mother in law. If we ever built a unit for her it would definately be ground level. She orchestrated it so that his daughter would be with her for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
His sister doesn't want us to bond. She takes care of her and has lived with their parents for the last 10 years. She moved in with her boyfriend at 16 and moved out when he hit her. She can't have children so she is clinging onto my husband's daughter.
He doens't pay his taxes or bills but he wants to manage other people's money as a financial counselor. Give me a f---ing break. I paid $600 for him to go into business once before and never saw any of that money. I also lost my rope and a tarp to his 'business' partner.
People with ADD have a loss (void?) of the executive function of the brain. The part that reasons things out logically and makes plans. They tend to fly by the seat of their pants.
He is very sweet, is good looking and in spite of lack of exercise is still attractive. He is pleasant (easy to do when you are so distracted you can't remember what to worry about.)
But don't try to get him to do anything he doesn't want to. He has a PhD in foot dragging. You are the scheming demanding woman. Get used to it.
It is just too much to make the money, bring home the groceries, cook it up and have to hound him to clean the pan so you can cook in it. Then come the other wifely responsibilities and lack of sleep ensuing because he gets distracted there too and takes 5 times longer than normal.
It's good to get some of this out on 'paper' so I can see that I am not unreasonable in my expectations. It is difficult to be objective when you are in a relationship.
But it's pretty clear this isn't working out.
As a child he was hyperactive. You wouldn't know it now because he sits in front of a computer all day, often without ever goind outside or opening the blinds.
He used to have bouts of depression. He takes SAMe, dl-phenylalanine (amino acid) and Saint John's Wort. He had his driver's license taken when he was very depressed and looks a bit psycho on it. Unkempt.
I made the mistake of counting on him to pay some bills but the responsibility lands on my head time and again.
For my birthday he had a tizzy fit after I was upset with him for not planning anything. ,Someone called the cops and we each got big fines. Nice birthday present.
Christmas he spent with his parents and his daughter.
His mom has custody of her but is a chain smoking 370 pound beast of burden. She is a nightmare mother in law. If we ever built a unit for her it would definately be ground level. She orchestrated it so that his daughter would be with her for Thanksgiving and Christmas.
His sister doesn't want us to bond. She takes care of her and has lived with their parents for the last 10 years. She moved in with her boyfriend at 16 and moved out when he hit her. She can't have children so she is clinging onto my husband's daughter.
He doens't pay his taxes or bills but he wants to manage other people's money as a financial counselor. Give me a f---ing break. I paid $600 for him to go into business once before and never saw any of that money. I also lost my rope and a tarp to his 'business' partner.
People with ADD have a loss (void?) of the executive function of the brain. The part that reasons things out logically and makes plans. They tend to fly by the seat of their pants.
He is very sweet, is good looking and in spite of lack of exercise is still attractive. He is pleasant (easy to do when you are so distracted you can't remember what to worry about.)
But don't try to get him to do anything he doesn't want to. He has a PhD in foot dragging. You are the scheming demanding woman. Get used to it.
It is just too much to make the money, bring home the groceries, cook it up and have to hound him to clean the pan so you can cook in it. Then come the other wifely responsibilities and lack of sleep ensuing because he gets distracted there too and takes 5 times longer than normal.
It's good to get some of this out on 'paper' so I can see that I am not unreasonable in my expectations. It is difficult to be objective when you are in a relationship.
But it's pretty clear this isn't working out.
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